Realizing the importance of emotional intelligence to your overall success and happiness is important, but you don’t need to overanalyze what’s involved in taking your emotional intelligence to a higher level.
It’s simple, really. With every step you take to build your emotional intelligence, your self-awareness and self-confidence, you’ll notice that stress, anxiety and your ability to communicate is getting stronger.
You become more effective in your communication efforts and able to empathize with those you work with and those whom you enjoy relationships with. You’ll also notice that you are more effective in meeting goals for yourself and overcoming challenges.
Rather than overanalyzing your efforts toward emotional intelligence, simply let it unfold naturally. For example, make a mental note to yourself to listen and observe carefully when you’re in a meeting or having a conversation.
Pay close attention not only to the words being said, but the emotional inflections in the voice and body language. Look for meanings behind the words and if anger or conflict is involved, try to imagine the other person’s point of view.
Don’t try to overanalyze your own feelings of anger, confusion and other emotions. Instead, work on your natural ability to shut down the anger and other negative emotions by using the tools you gain in developing emotional intelligence.
When you overanalyze, the information you feed to yourself can get bungled and may not be true. With emotional intelligence skills you’ll be able to self-regulate your thoughts and emotions and know how to deal with the negative without over-thinking the process.
Over-analyzing might also put you on the wrong path of self-discovery. Revealing negative thoughts and emotions within yourself can be depressing or make you anxious in certain situations.
Have empathy for yourself as well as others and build on your emotional intelligence quota by finding new ways to deal with the negatives in your life. Soon, it will come to you naturally – but, it takes work and practice.
Managing your emotions can be a real struggle and when you overanalyze you may be missing out on being able to control them. Addictive behaviors begin by people not being able to control their emotions.
Those behaviors include addictions to gambling, food, computer games, mindless entertainment and compulsiveness to surf the net or use your cell phone. You’ll want to control your emotions by making rational decisions in a knee-jerk reaction method.
When you find yourself over analyzing your reactions to certain situations, take a step back and take a deep breath. Apply the stress relief methods you learn when practicing emotional intelligence.
With practice, you’ll be able to change the way your brain thinks and help you feel more comfortable being in control. You may have setbacks, but in time, you will reap the benefits that emotional intelligence can bring into your life.